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14/12/16
The Beauty of Light .. A short piece written by Sophie Bibby inspired by a special person in my heart

All around the world is light. A vast expanse of light, so powerful that you don’t even realise it is there. It is only in times of darkness, sorrow or loneliness that we begin to pray. We pray for change, for hope, for comfort, for the darkness to end. It is only through connecting with our own darkness that we learn about the beauty of light.

We wish for a light at the end of the tunnel, a light to guide our way. A light of hope to help us through the day. We may think we are not good enough, not clever enough or that we are different and don’t fit in. It is these thoughts that keep us locked in the darkness, scared to come out. Hiding from the world, hiding from ourselves.

Looking deep within feels impossible and we are blinded, motionless. We see the darkness as something negative, something we need to run from. It is only when we connect with our darkness that we learn to truly connect with ourselves and when we connect with ourselves we connect to life, to people, to nature. It is like a light being switched on. The beauty of a warm, comforting flame beckoning us. Only the light that we have switched on has not come from an outside source. This light is natural, pure, honest and alive. It is the light that we all have deep within us, deep within our soul. It is our light and there is nothing more beautiful than our own light. Our light that helps us to be seen, it lights up who we are. When we see the light in other people shining brightly it helps us to search for our own light.

Do not be afraid to sit in the dark, the darkness welcomes you. You are surrounded by peace, knowing that the light is always there when you need it, when you are ready. Your light will never leave you, you just have to remember to switch it on.

Light is life.
Light creates more light.
You are your light.
Light up yourself and you Light up the world.
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- Sophie Bibby
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29/10/16
Real listening can only occur when the other person suspends all of their own agenda which is very hard to do. We recognise when someone has really listened to us as we feel heard and understood which in turn makes us feel worthy and important. Please remember that when someone needs to speak to you, remember it is about them not you.
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- Sophie Bibby
27/10/16
Abuse makes us believe that there is nothing or noone better for us. This comes from a lack of confidence and self esteem and is never true. We all deserve to be treated equally and with respect. Rebuilding your self esteem enables you to see your self worth and with this see how abuse affects you in many ways. Abuse will not be tolerated. Abuse is never ok. Abuse is never your fault. You can with support learn to believe this and in time learn to believe in yourself. You are always worth it.
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- Sophie Bibby
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23/10/16
We can not control whether or not we get hurt. Fear stops us from moving forward. If we can use the courage deep within us we can learn to trust and take risks. If we learn to let go, we can learn to live more fully in the moment and be more truly alive and free.
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- Sophie Bibby
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21/10/16
Help someone and you help them temporarily. Support someone to help themselves and you give them a gift for life. Make it about them, not you.
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10/10/16
Love nestarts with us. It is our life and we need to be in control of it. Not in control of someone else, or someone else’s problems or someone else’s anything. If weds to start with us, with you. We are the ones that have to live in this world, deal with our emotions, deal with us. Even when we have others in our life, we are still alone in some respects and if we can not deal with/look after ourselves then we are in trouble. We are adults and although it is hard and very challenging at times, we need to learn to be with ourselves. To eat and drink by ourselves, to walk by ourselves, to learn, to be by ourselves.
If we don’t get to know ourselves, how can we expect someone else to get to know us?
If we don’t understand ourselves, how can we expect someone else to understand us?
If we don’t love ourselves, how can we expect someone else to love us?
Whatever we do, think, feel, it all e are not in control of our own life, who is?..........
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- Sophie Bibby
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16/04/16
Some people need to learn that in order to 'get' you have to sometimes 'give'. Everyone deserves to receive, however we owe it to the world and ourselves to give out sometimes as you never know when you may need it back. #givetoreceive
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04/02/16
Today is Time to Talk day and I am one of many trying to help end the stigma around mental health. 1 in 4 of us will suffer from some form of mental health issue in our life and will know someone who is. Asking for help is a strength not a weakness and we all need to come together in this huge battle in our lives. If you or anyone you know needs help, please encourage them to talk to someone. Talking to another helps to share the weight and can often open the door to extra help and support. Asking for help for some is not easy, I can relate to this. I never asked for help and struggled . ASKING FOR HELP/TALKING IS A STRENGTH AND GETS EASIER THE MORE YOU DO IT. Help someone today. Encourage someone to ask for help or ask for help for you. YOU DESERVE IT. #Time to Talk day 2016 #talking # asking for help
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- Sophie Bibby
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