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02/12/15
After reading about someone that makes up bags of items for people living on the streets, it triggered something within me to reach out also. I give to various charities and have done over the years, however I have never done anything for this large group of people. It takes me back to a course that I attended years ago. People were discussing why people didn't try and help themselves or want to find a bed for the night. We later learnt that for some people, some having suffered abuse and neglect being on the streets was their safe place. I remember my particular darkest times when I did not feel safe in my own skin or in my own home and always wanted to be somewhere else, to escape. I always say hello to me and acknowledge them, I also see how the majority of people do not even look in their direction. The way I see it is that noone can say "that will never be me". Life is tough sometimes and not everyone has support to help them through. They are not people on the streets, he/she is someone. Someone's son, daughter, wife, boyfriend, sister, uncle. Small acts of kindness should not be a rarity, it should not be the exception it should be the norm. I am looking into a way of supporting a homeless charity and something that I could do at Xmas. What could you do? #volunteering #acts of kindness #homeless
Sophie Bibby
17/11/15
A best friend of mine has recently lost her mum and to be honest it shook me up quite a bit. It got me thinking about how many people are existing in their life rather than truly living life to the full. When I say to the full, I am not talking about having the latest gadget, a big house or new car. I am talking about truly appreciating the beauty of life, the everyday, the walk to work or drive through the autumnal countryside. I mean sending a message to a loved one or letting someone know that you are thinking about them. The little, what some may say basic everyday things. It is these small gestures that can mean so much to someone. Quite often what we need is to stop for a moment, look around and see what is right under our noses. Look at the beautiful colours in our world, our animals, our nature, our family, friends and new people that we meet. Stop and appreciate how beautiful people are in our world. We are all one of these beautiful people.
Sophie Bibby
11/11/15
Realising recently how at the age of thirty eight years of age I am finally in a place where I am living my life to the full, achieving more and more each day and I do truly believe that I am reaching my potential. I struggled with my choice of words here as I am continually growing hence my potential is ongoing. I am going up which is the important thing. It makes me think about all the people in the world that due to one reason or another are stuck, either in the past or living in the future and do not even know what their potential is. Some may even not believe that they are worth more or can be more. You are worth it. We are all worth it and be can always be more. Learning to believe in yourself is a lifelong journey in itself however it is always possible and it is never, ever too late. #never too late
Sophie Bibby
02/11/15
We all have our challenges in life and as I was sat in a coffee shop a while ago it struck me how so many people are so busy and/or fixated with their own life, maybe their own struggles that I think we forget we are surrounding by other people. We all know how isolating it is when you are going through a bereavement, a divorce, anxiety and it is at these times when we need people to acknowledge us, to make us feel like we are less alone. I always smile at people or comment on what they are wearing, as you never know what someone is going through at a particular time and how much that minimal gesture could help someone. We all need people to survive and there are a lot of us in this world. Think small and smile. #smile #world #help
Sophie Bibby
27/10/15
I have recently started to tune into what I believe I should be doing in my life. Despite my counselling which I am very passionate about I have recently started painting a lot and writing which I am so inspired by. Whilst working on various pieces of art I have seen how what I thought I was going to paint or started to paint quite often ended up as something entirely different. This got me to thinking about life and our life path, how we quite often think we know where we are going, who we are going with and sometimes you end up somewhere completely different to where you started or where you thought you were going. Although change is difficult, sometimes unbearable dependent on the circumstances I really do believe that with hard work we end up where we are supposed to be. Sometimes the not knowing can be scary, however if we are strong , hold on tight and bear the storm we can get to the next stage. #Life #Change
Sophie Bibby
15/10/15
I am sure we are all guilty of procrastinating sometimes and I am no exception to this. As an example I have only just phoned about my blocked sink despite problems with it for months. It does make me wonder why? Why do people put off jobs that could be sorted in two minutes? Sometimes it may be that the job itself is too difficult or that we think it could be and so we put it off, put it back on that every increasing pending pile and days, weeks, even months go by. My example has annoyed me so much that I finally made the ten minute call to get it sorted and I now think that age old question "Why did I wait so long? We all have our reasons and excuses and thoughts so let's see what you can get sorted today. Ask yourself the question "What have I been putting off for ages?" and "what can I sort today?" #procrastination
Sophie Bibby
13/10/15
Whilst rewatching my Sex and the City box set, I wrote down a particular quote that really struck me and touched me deeply. I feel now that my recent rollercoaster of emotions has been another part of my process and the more I read this quote the more it feels relevant to me at this juncture in my life. Change is very challenging, it can be extremely painful as well as exciting at times but above all change is necessary and growth producing. Change gets us to where we need to go next.

"Maybe the past is like an anchor holding us back. Maybe, you have to let go of who you were to become who you will be" Candace Bushell #change
Sophie Bibby
12/10/15
I have been talking about writing a book for a while now and until quite recently I feel like I am really ready. It feels very powerful, like I have to do it, like its spilling out readiness (I know this doesn't sound good english however it is how I feel). Sometimes we have to wait until we know the time is right and then wait until we feel the time is right and then wait until we are ready to take that first step. Today I took that first step and I have officially started my book. Time is a very powerful force. #timing
Sophie Bibby
22/09/15
BURNOUT PREVENTION “If an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, then the best way to beat burnout is to keep it from happening in the first place. In other words, take action before burnout appears rather than afterward. Instead of suffering through the costs of caring and then trying to recover from them, it makes more sense to try to eliminate them. The costs may be too high ever to overcome, thus, it is wiser to avoid them altogether.” (Maslach, The Cost of Caring: p. 216) I was actually reading this in relation to self care for counsellors. however I believe it applies to us all regardless of our career/life choices. To practice what I preach I have put my work away for the day, time to eat a good dinner and chill out. #burnout #wellbeing #self respect
Sophie Bibby copied an extract from a book
22/09/15
After a beautiful summer and lots of well deserved rest and relaxation I have been back to land of business now for the past few weeks. To be honest, it has been good for me to get back to some routine and to stop the "of course I can have another piece of cake, it's the holidays" mentality (still work in progress this one). I have been busy working, learning and keeping myself up to date with counselling children and young people and counselling in schools. I am currently working on a contract for a school to utilise my skills and experience in order to support students with improving their mental health and wellbeing. It brings me onto how far I have come.... tbc
Sophie Bibby
06/07/15
I have just been on a new course 'Adult survivors of sexual abuse'. It was a fantastic, challenging day with lots of interaction which helped to bring the course to life. It got me thinking about sharing experiences. My colleagues shared with me that they could see my passion for this area and I am proud to have been able to share my knowledge around this topic. We all have something we know a lot about, have a passion for, have experience in whether personal or professional and if we all can share a bit of what we know just think how much extra learning we can have. That one bit of information shared could help lots  more people. Share today.
Sophie Bibby
30/06/15
Being in touch with an  old friend reminded me that there are people in life, someone you have known  for a long, short time or just someone you may have met once that say something to you that you will never forget.  Mine to share today is "You don't belong here"  It didn't sink in to me until after it was said and it is something that I still hold very dear to me. I took it to mean that I was worth more than where I was at the time and I agreed. I have come a long way since then and continue to do so every day.
Can you remember one  statement that you will never forget?
Sophie Bibby
26/06/15
There are numerous theories to explain why we hang on so strongly to the concept of self-blame. One such theory explains that if we can attribute our ill-treatment to something we did, then we can control whether this ill-treatment happens again in the future by learning to moderate our own behavior. It gives us a sense of control over being hurt again. By letting go of the fact that the abuse happened through no fault of our own, it means that we also have to let go of that sense of control - which is very hard to do because, ultimately, we want to be able to protect ourselves. However, learning and accepting that we do not have control over everything in our lives and everything that happens to us is a necessary part of healing. What we can take away from this however, is that we can take control of the healing process....and that can be a very empowering experience.  (taken from www.pandys.org)
Sophie Bibby
26/06/15
It's easy to lose your self confidence sometimes or worry whether you can do something, be up to the job however there are always people in life that know you can and can remind us when we are challenged. Your friends, family, colleagues and children believe in you. Do you believe in you?
Sophie Bibby
23/06/15
Self confidence is the best outfit, rock it and own it.
Sophie Bibby (Quote from unknown source)